Fat and Sexy?

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Today I was reading Colin Tipping’s blog on Weight Loss and Body Issues. I love his work on Radical Forgiveness.  Nothing new, nothing I hadn’t read before.  In it he said weight or excess weight functions as protection from generalized hurt and rejection, but most frequently it is used to protect from imagined or real sexual attack. Louise Hay, a leader in the New Thought, self-help community, in her book You Can Heal Your Life, also says the excess weight is a form of fear, running away from feelings, insecurity, self-rejection and seeking fulfillment.  Ernest Holmes in Science of Mind states obesity is an expression of a person’s mentality that is filled with unexpressed longings, which he is trying to sublimate. Notice none of these people suggested that the reason for being fat is eating too many donuts, or saturated fat and any of the other stuff we have been bombarded with by the weight loss industry and even First Lady Michelle Obama. 

Believing that everything I see is a manifestation of thought (check out the Kybalion or even the Bible) and being a student of the Spirit Mind Body connection school, I know excess weight represents much more than extra calories and lack of exercise. 

Colin Tipping wrote in his blog “the mind reasons that being physically attractive is a risky proposition, so the best way to ward off physical advances is by making oneself decidedly unattractive.  What better way to become sexually unattractive than to be obese?”  Whoa?  This statement disturbed me.  All my spiritual training and enlightenment went out the door.  I started writing a scathing response to his statement.  My response included links to igigi.com, plusmodelmag.com, madisonplus.com, gabifresh.com, thebodyisnotanapology.com and a load of other websites I love and wished to God that they were around when I was a teenager over 25 years ago.  I wanted him to see Fluvia Lacerda, Anansa Sims, Mia Amber Davis, and a slew of everyday women, including myself, in my hometown, Washington, DC.  I wanted to prove to him that he was wrong and to show him what his erroneous thoughts had him missing. 

Why was I having so much energy around this statement? Why did I care?  Over the years I have learned that if I have a lot of energy around something that a person says, especially if outwardly I disagree with the statement, on some subconscious level I am agreeing with it.  Noooooo!!!!, I didn’t what to admit this, not while reading his blog.

Growing up as the only fat kid in damn near every place I went, home, school, family outings, I thought I was now in a place where my self-esteem was fully intact.  What was my anger around Tipping’s statement telling me, showing me? While walking my dog, the answer clearly came to me.

On some level, I had accepted that as true and even though I had DONE what showed to the world that I believed fat was physically attractive, my subconscious was still playing out this erroneous thought that I had accepted as a child.   And this is what needed to be changed, my thoughts, not Colin Tipping’s.

Whether my body fits within what society calls normal isn’t the issue.  How I really see myself, Angela, the Spirit of God, Angela, the Mind of God and Angela the Body of God, is the issue.  If I see myself as God sees me, then my Spirit, my Mind and my Body shall represent this truth.  And in this case my body will reflect perfect wholeness and wellness, the shape and form, perfect.  So when I look in the mirror and see myself as God sees me, I can’t help but to think that I am beautiful and that yes, I am physically attractive.  

Change my thinking, change my life.  

Be the change I want to see in the world.